Received this article from a friend thru Watsapp which prompted me to share these pictures of the State Unduk Ngadau Committee together with some of the Unduk Ngadau Finalists 2015's visit to the Residence of the Senior Citizen, Kg Purak, Papar, a nursing home managed by the Catholic Church, Sabah. Some of the senior citizen living there used to hold high posts in their younger days, some were government servants, teachers and others. But they chose to live there in their remaining years, to be with friends and be taken care of lovingly by the Sisters.
"My dear girl, the day you see I'm getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I'm going through. If when we talk, the same thing a thousand times, don't interrupt to say: "You said the same thing a minute ago"... Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.
When I don't want to take a bath, don't be mad and don't embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?
When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don't look at me that way ... remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life's issues every day... the day you see I'm getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I'm going through.
If I occasionally lose track of what we're talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can't, don't be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.
And when my old, tired legs don't let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked. When those days come, don't feel sad... just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I'll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I've always had for you, I just want to say, I love you ... my darling daughter."
Hi Angie, very spectacular header picture. I like your blog new look, very nice and bigger pictures too.
ReplyDeleteIts very true, those days all mothers, grandmothers are so patience with their children/ grandchildren and really spent time waiting patiently for them to eat, bathe and all the jazz. But today....I do came across some children got no patience with their parents at all and some not even willing to take care of their old folks. Mother asked extra questions, some children find their parents annoying. Very sad, right? They never think when they are young, how the mother take care of them.
Some wicked children even abandon their old aged senile or sick parents at shopping malls or outside the old folk homes after office hour. They took away the parents identity, passport so that there is no clue for people to trace them. What goes around come around, they sure to get their karma for abandon their parents.
Thanks for sharing this meaningful posting.
Have a nice weekend, God blessed.
Amelia
Life is ironical. Life is a learning experience.
ReplyDeletehi rainfield61.. it is human nature to sometimes forget that one day we too would lose our youth. until we wake up one morning and feel the bones creaking that doesn't seem to work like it used too and the crows' feet on our cheeks just refused to go away. Then we stretch our neck and realise road of life to eternity which is inevitable is looming near. Meanwhile, make the most of it,be good to the aged and hope that when our time comes, the young ones will look care for us.
DeleteHi Amelia, that is so sad indeed, those children who do not hold their duty to be filial to their aged parents especially in their old age. Who could be those children who are so wicked that they can find it in their hearts to abandon their old age senile parents at shopping malls. They could have sent them to the nursing homes where they can be taken care of. While it is quite possible that there are wicked children out there, I would give these my benefit of doubt and perhaps these aged and senile may have perhaps wandered on their own without bringing any papers with them and forgot how to get home. Perhaps some were suffering the Alzheimer's and could not remember anything.
ReplyDeleteThese nursing homes I supposed would be good for those aged especially those without children to care for them.
Thanks for dropping by and have a lovely weekend. God bless.
Angie